compassion, collaboration & cooperation iN transistion
Having been encouraged as a left-handed dyslexic • by both my parents
and maternal grandparents, but particularly my mother • that I was actually,
with my own specific mindset of skills and capabilities, no different from
anyone else and should therefore accordingly treat everybody with the
respect that they were due • I was from an early age equally enamoured
with the various specific mindset of skills and capabilities, of both the
female and male members of our species; to the extent that it [BE]came
increasingly apparent to me, once I had left Grammar School, that women
had to work much harder than men, to be accepted in the workplace on
equal terms with men, despite the revolution that had taken place in the
workplace during WWII, as a result of men going off to fight the war.
Over the course of my career, I [BE]came increasingly frustrated by the
supposed success of women in LIFE, who had gained that accolade by
virtue of their acceptance of the OLD ORDER patriarchal mindset, rather than
taking up the challenge of initiating a NEW ORDER mindset based on the two
active principles of YIN & YANG. A juxtaposition exemplified today, by the
So in the context of ALL that I have said in cyberspace so far, just consider
ABSOLUTELY SPOT-ON and brilliant in its appraisal of the dilemma that our
species faces today. As she herself says...
"Likewise, men also need to develop qualities and capacities that have been more traditionally related to women, such as nurturance and caretaking, in order to transform their agency. The agency that has been historically associated with men and masculinity has been radically independent and impenetrable in ways that make interdependence and interrelatedness nearly impossible. Limiting ideas of what makes a man also creates an “over-investment in gender identity ” that inhibits flexibility and creative exchange between people. It also creates strange ideas of gender freedom—as if freedom from restrictive ideas of masculinity means to adopt traditional notions of femininity.
The divide between the worlds of family and work has created an interior divide between masculinity and femininity. The belief that this polarity expresses the right and true relationship between men and women as opposites IS an enormous barrier to transformation. It is that core belief that keeps too many women invested in relational otherness - wanting to [BE] wanted, needing to be needed, rather than seeking to fulfill one’s desires and destiny as an active agent of change and potential. It is also that core belief that locks too many men into an isolated agency that prohibits real dialogue and deep engagement with others.
Even the popular notion of “balancing” the masculine and feminine in the self still starts from the premise that certain qualities are more appropriate for women or for men. Isn’t creative agency the birthright of any human being? Don’t we want CARE to [BE] a universal quality that we each cultivate in widening circles of empathy and responsibility for others? The capacities and qualities that have been divided between us as feminine and masculine are human qualities that all human beings, female and male, deserve the freedom to cultivate."
CARE of EARTH • CARE of PEOPLE • FAIR SHARE
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